“Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win,
by fearing to attempt.”
― William Shakespeare, Measure for Measure
Self doubt has been something I’ve struggled with all my life, from not believing I could succeed as a musician to having the confidence to lead the various institutions I am honored to be a part of. It’s a very human emotion, and it’s made worse for some people because of life experiences or temperament.
Self doubt also makes you feel alone. Sometimes you think you’re the only person in the world who suffers from a loss of confidence, while thinking all of your friends and colleagues have it completely together.
It’s really hard to rid yourself of doubt entirely, but I have been able to ditch it for long periods of time. Here are some suggestions that may help get you through those doubtful times:
Remember past successes: Make a list of times in the past you doubted yourself but ended up coming through with flying colors. I always think about a great performance I had and how it felt. Knowledge and recognition of your past successes will get you through many tough times and help you achieve great things in the future.
Call your friends: Often, our friends can see our lives more objectively than we can. It always helps to confide in my good friends when I am in doubt of myself; they remind me of past successes.
Celebrate your successes: Take the time to cement positive emotions in your mind when you have a success. It will make the doubt disappear more quickly next time.
Self doubt is normal, but it can be paralyzing if you aren’t careful. We all deserve to reach our full potential as human beings; while we sit and doubt ourselves, others are out there taking the fearless plunge. So get out there in confidence!
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